As I was driving to Wal-Mart I heard a story on the radio about “The Kindness Challenge”. I was intrigued. I didn’t hear the whole discussion – but the gist of it was a woman had done a study about how 30 days of kindness could transform a relationship, even if only one person in the relationship was doing the challenge.
I love a challenge. And I love an easy model to follow. #JoinKindness
Once I got home I did a little more digging and found the 30 Day Kindness Challenge online. (Disclaimer, I haven’t read the book so I don’t know all the details). According to the website:
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is a much-needed movement of kindness led by many influential organizations.
89% of relationships improve if you pick a person with whom you want a better relationship; then for 30 days:
1. Say nothing negative about that person – either to them or about them to anyone else.
2. Each day find one positive thing you can praise or affirm about that person and tell them and tell someone else.
3. Each day, do one small act of kindness or generosity for them.
I signed up! Interested in joining me? Sign-up here.
I am starting on June 1, 2017 and the recipient of my kindness will be my husband.
So right now I am trying to get prepared by brainstorming small acts of kindness (and doing Pinterest research because honestly, outside of doing laundry and making his favorite dinner, I’m having a hard time coming up with ideas for a man who doesn’t ask for much).
But even more so, I am praying for God to help me with #1 on the list – not saying anything negative. I nag my husband. Probably more than I realize. My tone of voice can be not so pleasant. When I am displeased everyone in the house knows it. I complain about stupid stuff – how he folds the laundry, him buying chips when I am trying to eat healthy, him letting the kids watch too much TV, etc.
So my big prayer right now is for God to help me prepare and that I will rely on Him for the kindness and loving words. And that He will help me keep my mouth shut when needed.
In my Bible reading this morning there was some great stuff as I get my heart (and mouth) ready for the challenge.:
1 Corinthians 2: When Paul came to tell people at Corinth about Jesus he was timid and trembling. He didn’t have the words to say. But instead of trying to come up with impressive speeches, he relied on the power of the Holy Spirit. Mentally, he focused on Jesus only, and then let the Holy Spirit speak through him. Wow. That is what I want. There is no one who loves my husband more than Jesus, and Jesus would much rather have me covering my husband with love and kindness than nagging about how to fold the towels. When I open my mouth I don’t want my words to come out, but the Holy Spirit speaking through me.
Proverbs 12: So much incredible stuff here about the words I speak to my husband:
- A worthy wife is a crown for her husband (Proverbs 12:4)
- The words of the godly save lives (Proverbs 12:6)
- The family of the godly stands firm (Proverbs 12:7) (OK, not exactly about my words, but I have two daughters listening to everything I say. Are my words and my tone godly?)
- Wise words bring many benefits (Proverbs 12:14)
- A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted (Proverbs 12:16)
- The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth (Proverbs 12:22)
- Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging words cheers a person up (Proverbs 12:25)
- The godly give good advice to their friends (Proverbs 12:25)
- Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.(Proverbs 12:18).
My words have the power to heal or destroy, and 95% of the time I open my mouth without really thinking through what I am going to say. I really need God in this area of my life. I need to think before I speak and filter everything I am saying through the Holy Spirit. And I probably need to keep my mouth closed a lot more often.